”She stands out on the red carpet because she does not smile broadly or pose; she usually looks slightly uncomfortable. Of her red-carpet experience,Stewart said: People say that I’m miserable all the time. It’s not that I’m miserable, it’s just that somebody’s yelling at me…I literally, sometimes, have to keep myself from crying…It’s a physical reaction to the energy that’s thrown at you.”
“Stewart is often a target of a specific kind of body policing: the “smile, baby” requirement. When she appears on the red carpet and does not assure us with her teeth that she is simply thrilled to be reduced to a presence, a dress, a posture, she is often the target of harassment for her expression. There is an expectation of women in general and famous woman in particular to always assure the onlooker that they are happy to be looked upon through smiling, and Stewart rejects this.”
Women are expected to be nice and sweet, to make other people feel comfortable. A woman who says ‘hey, I think there’s a problem here’ is being ‘negative.’ A woman who doesn’t smile while she’s being harassed is ‘humourless.’ A woman who prefers to stay focused on tasks is a ‘cold bitch.’ Significant gendering is involved here; women have an obligation to look and act a certain way and when they don’t, they need to be hassled until they do.
ye girl, I feel your pain wouldn’t believe how many random people tell me to fucking smile
I see the criticism of Lana Del Rey as an extension of this, people getting angry that she looks awkward when she performs and characterising her as this stone-cold distant weirdo when there are videos of her laughing in interviews and smiling with fans. I’ve seen lots of indie boy bands where the singer drawls into the mic, standing motionless and staring at the floor but apparently that’s just being cool. When she does it she’s a bad performer.
Recently, a concerned parent and blogger reported that the LEGO Club magazines that had previously been delivered to her and her daughter had been replaced by a very different kind of magazine. LEGO Club Girls is a pastel-coloured, less-interesting version of the original developed around sorely misinformed ideas of what girls like. An online sample from the LEGO website reveals that the original magazine included things like comic strips involving knights and kings, a how-to guide on building LEGO boats and a surfing themed colouring activity. The new LEGO Club Girls magazine, the blogger reports, features comic strips with the new LEGO Friends characters going to a café (yawn) and instead of a surfing themed activity, there’s an activity centred around a lost puppy (double yawn).
Most strikingly of all, there are no building instructions in this version of the magazine. Why not? It certainly wouldn’t have to do with the fact that LEGO thinks girls don’t like building things or aren’t meant to build things; maybe LEGO just couldn’t think of a girly enough thing for girls to build. What would a girl build anyway? Lipstick? A training bra? A tutu? Are there tulle and chiffon LEGO bricks in the works for the next set of girl mini-figures?
If you happened to check “girl” upon signing up for LEGO Club but don’t want to automatically be switched over to a “girlier” LEGO Club magazine, don’t worry! They want you to know that you can opt out and re-subscribe to the “regular” version. Really, LEGO? The message here is loud and clear. There’s girls stuff, like puppies and beauty shops and pink things, and there’s boy stuff, or what LEGO might call “regular” stuff; you know, stuff that forces you to use your imagination and takes you on adventures and has characters with more developed personalities than all the lady LEGO Friends combined!
The most adorable little feminist - who can’t be more than 5 - rants about gender stereotyping in marketing children’s toys. She’s adamant that girls and boys can both like princesses AND super heroes. She’s at an age where she hasn’t yet been cowed by gender stereotypes - we should be wise enough to figure out how to nurture this kind of independent thinking in all girls and make it last into adulthood.
I know what you’re thinking. “Are you fucking kidding me?” No, I’m not. This is an actual tag found on an Enjoi brand sweater in PacSun. What is it about advertising that makes sexism seem like a good marketing campaign? I’ll never be sure. This is part of the problem. This is part of the underlying menace that is stereotypical gender roles. These subtle messages are what allow misogynistic comments and jokes to be made. We all saw Dr. Pepper’s latest marketing campaign - “Not For Women.” It’s these small things we see every day, everywhere, that remind us that we’re far from equality. Frankly, I’m tired of living in a world where advertisers think they need sexism to sell their products.
In March of 2010 I made this costume for my daughter. She was going to go to a “Princess/Super Hero” party where the boys were to be super heroes and the girls were to be princesses. Wonder Woman has been Daria’s favorite hero for a long time and this way she was the only kid at the party who went as both a princess AND a superhero!
♥ Philip Pullman's His Dark Materials;
♥ Margaret Atwood (especially the Mad Adam series & The Handmaid's Tale);
♥ The Hunger Games;
♥ The X-Files;
♥ (Mostly) everything Joss Whedon; and
♥ Unicorns, narwhals, time travel & zombies (not necessarily in that order).
Also, I'd rather pretend that season 6 of Lost never happened, and that Alias ended with the 2003 Superbowl episode.